Monday, 03 September 2018 21:16

Healing After the Transition of a Child

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There is no one path to healing, we know. The grieving process is one of the most painful struggles parents, siblings, cousins, grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends will endure.  Making it worse still, all of us grieve differently.  This point might be the hardest to endure because in that place of unimaginable pain, it is nearly impossible to understand how somebody could grieve differently than us.  Trust me, this is one constant – all of us grieve differently, (so don’t judge others for doing so).  And all of us heal differently too, if we allow ourselves to heal at all.

So many paths to healing, but I believe most of them point to attaining some sort of knowledge, some sort of understanding of what happened. More to the point, where is our son, where is our daughter now? We are desperate to know and that need comes from our minds and our souls.  It is here, if we are fortunate, we both seek and find the support we need, or it finds us.  Attempting to walk the path of grieving alone is the most difficult way.  While some can, I assert we are not made to go it alone.  In finding support, we share the pain and receive truths that we might not otherwise be exposed to.

For me, it was signs from Quinton that opened my eyes. Quinton’s signs opened wide a door to a deep understanding that he lives on in another level of existence.  Trust me when I say, I just don’t know how or why I was able to recognize his signs so quickly.  Granted, they were bold and powerful, but coming from a place of ignorance in these matters, I could have dismissed them as flights of fancy or imagination.  But I didn’t, somehow I knew in my soul what his signs meant.  Quinton granted me the most powerful gift, the Gift of Knowledge that he is alive and well.  I do all in my power to give you this very same gift.  Let’s talk about signs, let’s discuss them and learn how to recognize them.  This is why there are two books, Quinton’s Messages and Quinton’s Legacy.  This is why there are dozens, even hundreds of books that speak this simple truth.

After the signs, we were blessed to have contact with some truly gifted evidential mediums. Mediums like Rebecca Rosen, Suzanne Giesemann, Jaime Clark, Dave Campbell and Susanne Wilson.  The list goes on and on.  These mediums can communicate directly with our loved ones on the other side.  Such a gift they have, referred to as “gifts of spirit” in the New Testament.  Richard Ireland, in his book published by his son Mark titled, Your Psychic Potential describes “mediumship is a sacred office, the one original priesthood of God.”  This gift they have has to be interpreted via the physical bodies they have, which makes their gift and dedication to making the connections for us so sacred.  These mediums provide us with knowledge that our loved ones exist as they share messages from them, that there is no earthly way they could know.  These esteemed mediums while sharing the connections they make, the best of them try to teach us how to connect directly ourselves with our loved ones.  This direct connect is the most powerful and wonderful experience.  These mediums do not want us to rely too much on them or to need them.  From my perspective, there is nothing more heartbreaking than to see parents new to the path of grieving the transition of a child, attend a gallery reading and walk away bitterly disappointed.  This is the risk and candidly, why I talk so much about signs we all can and DO receive directly.

This quest for understand cannot be complete without God, after all, God makes the signs, the mediums and the fact that our loved ones are alive and well on the others side possible. I sought God my entire adult life, searching in multiple churches over the years only to find the Divine at the accident scene, in the aftermath.  And what a gift that is!  Talk of God can be so divisive, but God in inclusive; only the human is divisive and we should not project this divisiveness upon God. 

I found God at the accident scene and upon finally reading the Gospels, I felt as wrapped in a warm loving blanket. I found myself drawn to scripture such as John 13:34 – “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each another. Just as I have loved you, you should love one another.” Luke 6:31 – “Do to others as you would like them to do to you.” Matthew 7:1-2 – “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others.  The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.”  I can go on.  For me, finding the red print (the words of Jesus) gave word and understanding to what I was feeling and experiencing, and most importantly (for me anyway) without the dogma.  Jesus says “it is only through me”… and too many create dogma around this and forget He showed us the way – It is through Love, Peace and Understanding.  As I grappled with Quinton’s transition, I found just what I needed in the red print – and so do others.

There are these paths or tools in grieving to be utilized together or separately. Like I said, each help us to understand “There is More” and that our kids are oh so very much alive and well across the veil, as we will be too when our spiritual growth and learning is completed – in this chapter.

Namaste and Blessing.

I wish you all the best and feel free to contact me if you have questions. Dialogue is good.  We are both teacher and student, each of us. 

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