Sunday, 26 November 2017 19:17

This Ties Us Together

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Our Lyft ride was right on time.  The driver jumped out of his vehicle as we emerged from our home.  He was upbeat, positive and there was something more.  As we loaded our luggage and then loaded ourselves, we connected energetically.  There was something familiar about that energy as we went back and forth rapid fire, so much so that I asked him where he was from.  He was from New Jersey, Mike Nieves is his name.  I laughed out loud and let him know that was from New Jersey as well.

Our conversation became even more animated.  It made sense to both of us that two Jersey boys could connect so strongly, but we had another tie.  At some point in the conversation I introduced Mike to Quinton, Quinton’s visits and our journey since our son transitioned.  At this point Mike introduced us to his son, Miguel Angel Nieves III.  Miguel transitioned on March 31, 2005 and as Mike explained, “that was the day his Earth stood still.”

He went on to explain the pain he experienced; he said it was the hardest thing he had ever had to do, to claim his son’s body and to lay him to rest.  And we know this, all of us do.  But this isn’t the tie that I am referring to.  He went on to share that after two weeks he was going stir crazy and decided to go back to work, hoping the busyness would help him to process and move with his grief.  On the night before going back to work he had a visit.

That night, about 3:30 or 4:00 in the morning he found himself in his living room, talking to his son.  He continued by sharing as we spoke during the drive to the airport that he was not only talking to his son, he was smelling him and he was holding him; he was feeling him!  And then his son, Miguel spoke to him and said, “Dad, I am in a much better place right now.”  Mike continued by saying that moment, two weeks after his son transitioned, was the beginning of his healing.  This wasn’t an isolated incident either.

In those moments when his temper was about to get the best on him or something was bothering him, his son would whisper in his ear, “Dad, it’s going to be okay and just relax.”  Mike describes hearing his son on the Other Side whisper those words in his ear is the most soothing thing, giving him a mellowness and a sense of peace.  This is the tie that binds Mike and me.  Here we are, two strangers in a car, connecting on a deep spiritual basis because in part anyway, a shared experience with our son’s on the Other Side, making themselves known to us.  These visits demonstrate that there is no death, that we are eternal.

As we discussed our shared experiences, he had a message for you (yes, You).  While acknowledging our (all of us) shared pain, he implores us to live every day to the fullest and do so to honor our children.  He went on to say, “On day you will be together again, but until then, enjoy your life and do something good in your transitioned child’s name every day.”

Such sage and poignant advice from a fellow parent with a child on the Other Side.  He burns bright, sharing love – and now you know why.  He implores us to do the same; take the opportunity to share and be of service to others walking this path we know so well.

Blessings

Ernie and Kristine

PS - Mike and I stay in contact now, and he even sent an audio file to help me better remember the points of our conversation.

Ernie Miguel

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