Sunday, 09 October 2016 12:57

The Gift

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My gift comes on the heels of the worst tragedy.  My gift is appreciation and gratitude, for my family.  My gift caused me to have a paradigm shift, from being absorbed in more worldly things like my job, the money I made, the nightly news - to what is, in fact, essential.  I was aware of this before since so much of what I did was for my family’s comfort, but the gift changed it somehow.  It made it more!

I received the gift of perspective, and all of us who have lost someone who is dear have received it.  All of us who have had a child transition to the other side before we have, leaving us here, struggling to get our footing in this new normal, have been given this gift.  

As we move beyond our enormous pain, as our children visit us in our dreams and send us signs, we learn that they actually aren’t “dead.” Still, we miss them so.  But forging past that gaping hole, many of us end up with a divine appreciation – for everything. And this perspective is our gift to the world; a gift we have an opportunity to share with others.  

Our son, Quinton Stone Jackson, immediately began to visit us after transitioning in a horrible accident.  These visits changed everything, but still, there is hurt; hurt about which I need not tell you.  And now, we are blessed to be grandparents; the eldest turns three on July 17th, and the youngest turned one on March 18th.  

It is hard to express the joy they bring to Kristine and me.  Especially me, because now I know and I understand what I missed.  Of course, all grandparents feel the same way about their grandchildren, but for a grandparent who has lost a child, that magical bond seems to multiply by, well, pick a number.

I give my gift to them; the gift of being present.  Looking these treasured grandchildren deeply in their eyes as we babble, making faces and funny noises; as we cuddle and walk and swim.  Of course, not all of us have grandkids, but we still have an opportunity lovingly to share our gift of perspective, gratitude, and appreciation with those around us.  It is not an obligation to do so because sometimes we just don't feel up to it.  However, being able to share when we do feel uplifted or when the moment is right, sharing the perspective that we are grateful to be with our friends and loved ones is remarkable.

So, here I sit, after publishing two books, moving in and out of the corporate world. Here I sit, just completing the 2nd edition of 'Quinton’s Messages' and reliving along the way.  Here I sit with the realization that I am honored to be part of my daughter and son-in-law’s lives, and especially a part of my grandson’s lives.  This inclusion is more important than anything else.  It overshadows everything, and it shapes our future.

We are needed.  We have a valued perspective that today's world today yearns to understand.  We don’t have to preach it, just live it, so that others may see us and be equally inspired to have the gratitude and appreciation that we have for life.  Share the gift.

-Blessings!  May you recognize the signs of your loved ones when they visit!


-Ernie and Kristine Jackson

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